Sex Reading, Valentine’s Day: How do you feel? Dig deeper. (18+)
Sometimes, you have to assess how you’re actually feeling. Some of y’all are either hypersexual, or are underactive sexually. This is all dependent on what you’re feeling. But all of these have a common denominator: Why are you doing what you aren’t feeling? Sex is supposed to be fluid. You don’t have to be in love to have sex, but you should be able to be free with the person you’re with. There’s a feeling that you are either having to suppress these feelings, or go through a lot of different people to be satisfied. This is fine if this can be controlled, but it seems as if you aren’t happy. You’re looking for more, so you feel you should be doing more to please this other person, or have a lot of sex with others to be satisfied. Both avenues are taxing. Feeling like your sexual feelings aren’t valid, or feeling like there’s no person to give you what you need, is a lonely feeling. You’re also feeling like you are misunderstood. You aren’t sure why you’re constantly going against how you feel, or are putting your feelings into overdrive in order to understand yourself. You aren’t doing anything to help yourself, you are just throwing yourself out of whack because you feel like this is how life is supposed to be. However, you are not living. You are just living a fraction of what you think your life is supposed to be. You can do more than that. You do not have to condemn yourself to people who do not understand how your body works, you deserve more than that. You can’t be willing to just accept things from people who don’t want to take the time to make sure you are happy. There are people out there for you, you just have to be willing to keep living the life you want to find it. You cannot find what you’re looking for in the same sexual situations that made you unhappy in the first place. It’s time for change. Figure out your likes and dislikes. Be honest with them. You like certain things out of conditioning or the want to please others. You placed a passive role in what your sexual desires have been. Time to be a bit more picky by connecting what the mind, heart, and body wants from this. Once these sync up, you’ll be able to know what you want, and connect with the person who will give you just that. It will still take time, but the goal is to not settle. Live your life and be happy. It’s okay for your taste to evolve and to want different, you just have to follow it and fully connect and commit to it.
Here’s YouTube links that I feel may help y’all connect. This may help y’all figure out what your sexual wants are.
One will helps you figure out what you want:
The other for communicating wants:
Both will be useful. The root is also important when it comes to that primal factor in sex. Lust.
Also, ask yourself, or even draw a tarot card:
What are my sexual needs?
What have I been repressing sexually?
What am I lacking sexually? Whether that be from other people, or yourself.
Tai 💚